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2023.04.01 06:34 StepwiseUndrape574 GTA 6 Still AWOL, But Rockstar Announces Big Updates For GTA Online And Red Dead Online

Grand Theft Auto 6 (GTA 6) is an elusive beast that has eluded [official] detection for years. The current “big dog” Grand Theft Auto V was first released way back in September 2013, and has been available across two console generations (Xbox 360/PS3 and Xbox One/PS4). It will even be available natively on next-generation Xbox Series X and PlayStation 5 consoles, which is quite unprecedented in the gaming realm. So, while Rockstar seems reticent to just letting us wait in agony for any news on GTA 6, it is at least giving us some new updates on its two current hot properties: GTA Online and Red Dead Online.
In the case of the incredibly popular (and highly lucrative) GTA Online, Rockstar says that a big “summer update” is coming for gamers with a “fun mix of diverse” content to partake in. Even more interesting is the fact that the developers indicate that its “biggest update ever” is coming before the end of 2020. That update will include new Heists that will take place in a completely new location, which has definitely piqued our interests.
red dead online As for Red Dead Online, its next big update is actually arriving next week; on July 28th to be exact. Red Dead Online hasn’t exactly been teaming with new content, as the last big update for the online component of Red Dead Redemption 2 dropped way back in December 2019. However, Rockstar is promising a new Frontier Pursuit mode with a focus on “naturalism” and a new battle pass-type component, which is conveniently named Outlaw Pass. Finally, Rockstar says that it has addressed tons of bugs with the game and has taken community feedback to heart with this release, which is definitely appreciated.
In addition to the game updates on the way, Rockstar also took the time to address the well-being of its online communities. “We are also committed to ensuring that our games are fun for everyone and as safe as possible from modders, cheaters, hackers, and those who seek to harass other players,” said the company in its blog post.
“So far this year, we have taken action on hundreds of thousands of players caught violating community rules across both games. Please help us keep our communities safe and fun by reporting any sort of cheating either directly in-game or via our dedicated web reporting tools for both Red Dead Online and GTA Online.”
It's good to see that Rockstar is cracking down on those looking to spoil the fun for everyone, and its methods for “taking out” such offenders is among the best in the industry.
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2023.04.01 06:27 Business-Jelly-8546 "I think you should get plastic surgery to suit my fantasies, even if we aren't officially dating."

I'll start by saying, I no longer associate with this man and am in a happy healthy relationship with the best man ever now whom I intend to marry. But this one has scarred me for a while.
TLDR at the bottom.
About two years ago, I met a man (29M) who we'll call Sam. I (28F) had just gotten out of a tumultuous and borderline abusive relationship with a man I'd been with for 3 years and was leery about starting a relationship at all. Sam was in the process of a divorce, living with his soon to be ex wife but about to get his own place and had 2 children.
We had a lot in common and initially just bonded over music, reading, and video games. He was sweet, funny, and different than any other man I've ever dated. We vented about our exes and our lives a good bit.
There were red flags GALORE with this man and I'm an idiot who didn't see them because I just didn't want to. He was fun to talk to. Besides the aforementioned red flags he also: didn't speak kindly of his 12 years with his ex (they were high school sweethearts), talked about his kids like they were the biggest chore and sucked all of the joy out of his life but would always amend it with "I'd do anything for my children.", And (this I realized afterward) he was a sex addict. But, because I'm an absolute moron, I liked that he was different than my ex. Sam seemed Cultured, bookish, and nerdy. And I thought the distain he had for his ex stemmed from her, allegedly, cheating on him. And who am I to judge what kids are like? I had none of my own yet.
Because we met online, a lot of our initial conversations were done over text or over the phone. Literally a week into talking he tried telling me he loved me. I told him I wasn't comfortable with moving that fast because we were both getting out of serious relationships and he wasn't even fully divorced yet. So he agreed that it was too quick and didn't mention it again for a while.
He said a lot of things like "you're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen." And "my ex wife is going to be so jealous when she sees you." I told him that made me uncomfortable because I don't want to be seen as some kind of weird trophy to make his ex jealous. He swore it had nothing to do with that.
Then he started talking to me about all of the porn he liked and started showing me some pretty intense bondage stuff. I had been interested but had never really done anything that adventurous. I told him so but he insisted we could learn together because he hadnt tried any of it either.
I noticed that a lot of the women in the porn he would send me had gigantic fake boobs. I thought that might just be a coincidence because ya But I was a little self conscious because I genetically don't have perfect boobs and they're rather small, especially at this time because I had lost so much weight due to being upset about the breakup I had just recently suffered. I had never sent him nude pictures or anything before we met because I was so self conscious about it. I told him I had body image issues and had previously suffered an ED. and he said he understood, because in his words "being raised by an Asian mother who scrutinized everything about him" didn't really make him super confident either. He generally made me feel like I had nothing to worry about.
The night we finally met, about a month later, we had planned to go out for drinks. After I got in his car, he insisted we skip drinks and go back to his newly acquired apartment. I told him I wasn't sure about that but he was really insistent about it. So we went back to his apartment. The whole ride there he kept saying how beautiful I was and how I was so out of his league. and I'm sure you can surmise what happened when we finally got to his apartment.
Before we even started I told him I was nervous about being with another person because my ex and I had been together for 4 total years. He was really comforting and said he understood because I'd be the first person he had slept with outside of his 12 year relationship/marriage.
Afterwards, he told me he loved me again and I told him I still wasn't ready for that and his response was "Well I love you. And I know I do. You don't have to say it back. but I want to keep telling you I love you." we talked about life and what we wanted out of our future. he stated he didn't really want anymore kids because the ones he had were enough. I told him I really wanted to be a mom. And it was becoming more and more obvious as this conversation progressed that we weren't as compatible as I initially thought. I don't know why we hadn't spoken of these things yet. Maybe because we were to busy talking about the things we actually did have in common.
I went home and the next morning, he started acting really strange. Very one word response-ish. I honestly didn't care too much because I was now reflecting on the red flags and regretted sleeping with him at all. He said he wanted to call me when he got off work and I said alright. I had already decided there and then that I had gotten the "ick" from him at some point. Like i did not see the handsome, witty, smart guy I thought he was. I only saw the guy who talked about how his ex wife sucked, his kids ruined his life, and tried to force this premature "love" thing on me.
During the phone call he said "I've been having some really intrusive thoughts. And I feel bad about them." And I just said "oh? What's wrong?" He sounded really down and I was curious as to what could be so pressing that he wanted to call to talk about it.
He said "I've been thinking and I think you should get a boob job. I want you to get a boo job."
It was like a punch to the gut. Every fear I'd had about my body confirmed. Every hate I had for myself validated by this man who wasn't even my boyfriend and I'd only known for a month.
I burst into tears and he said he was "sorry" and that he didn't like thinking these things. And that he'd "pay for it", meaning he'd pay for me to my breasts augmented to suit his fantasies.
At that, I snapped. I said something along the lines od "Well I think you should be a better father to your kids. And that you were probably a bad husband. I think you're actually a pretty terrible person all around. And I was going to tell you I don't want to see you again before you ever said you wanted me to change my body. There isn't enough money in the world to fix you being a piece of shit." And hung up.
He texted me and told me I was an awful person and a hateful b-word. He told me he knew he wasnt a great dad but how dare I judge him because I don't have children of my own. Eventually he stated he was going to kill himself.
I was tired of the manipulation and blocked him. I heard through the grape vine he made a poetry page on Facebook and wrote terrible cringe poems that may or may not have been about me.
TL;DR: A guy I knew for a month tried to love bomb me and then, after knowing about my body image issues, tells me he thinks I should get a boob job and he'll pay for the procedure.
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2023.04.01 06:25 2017_BCS_ORANGE_BOWL Updates to title flair verification process

Hello /chess!
We've received much criticism over the years for the opaque and seemingly arbitrary process by which we grant verified flairs to titled players. Although we've always tried to grant these flairs impartially on a case-by-case basis, we realize that this is not good enough. Today we're announcing an important policy change: verified flairs will now be a part of our "/chess Orange" subscription, removing the potential for human bias and allowing any titled players to simply self-identify as such and be recognized for their achievement. Upon paying the fee, you will immediately be granted the flair with none of the verification steps we required in the past.
The fee schedule will be as follows:
Title Monthly Fee
GM/WGM $19.99
IM/WIM $14.99
FM/WFM $9.99
CM/WCM $4.99
LM* $4.99
RM** $4.99
*Lichess Master
** Reddit Master
Any subscriber for the GM flair for 12 months in a row will be eligible to purchase the "World Chess Champion" flair for a one-time fee of $299.99. You can reduce that to 9 months by messaging us the promo code "DingNepo2023" and paying the cost upfront. This is a limited time offer valid until the end of the World Championship match.
As recognition for their achievement and a thank you for their support of our community, existing manually verified titled players will receive 2 free months of /chess Orange, after which they will have to pay the fee in order to maintain their flair. We hope this will help to combat elitism and make /chess a more welcoming environment both for the titled and the titled-at-heart.
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2023.04.01 06:22 StepwiseUndrape574 A few questions before buying a mod menu

Hi, i've been thinking about getting a menu and I found Stand Regular. It's at the top of what I'm willing to pay but seems worth the money.
But I wanted to ask a few things from people who have some experience modding:
1.Is that a good choice? I don't need some options, mostly just making money(from missions, not by adding artificially) crash protections, teleport and other quality of life changes, i wouldn't be needing any griefing tools or anything that interferes with other players.
2.I understand it's an internal menu, running as part of the game. How can it avoid detection by Rockstar Launcher checking the game files? Won't it get me banned for just being there?
3.Is the site I'm looking at,, legit?
4.Is there a way to see when a Rockstar employee is spectating me? As far as I know you can get banned by auto detection of cheated money/cars, by getting reported for cheating in a public session, or by an admin who decides to take a look at what you're doing and witnesses you cheating. Can the menu prevent or warn me about the last one?
5.Are menus like Stand fun to use for someone not amused by griefing and aimbotting? As in, are there some fun things to do not designed to ruin the fun of others?
Sorry if the questions are dumb, but I've only ever used Menyoo for singleplayer and Modest Menu before for a while so I don't know much about mods, and I don't want to waste money by rushing it. Any answers and opinions are appreciated, thanks!
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2023.04.01 06:18 Garunix00 My girlfriend (26F) of 4 years just accused me (30M) of cheating on her.

So, I am an American living in Mexico. My girlfriend just accused me of planning to cheat on her.
My brother is getting married next month and I made plans to be there for his wedding. Since it has been almost 5 years since I have spent time with my family, I made plans to spend a week there. She was completely fine with it before and today suddenly, she says "I want you to leave your phone here so I can see who you are planning to see" and I asked her "How would I get in touch with you?" That seemed to make sense to her, but then she said "Actually just give me your phone now so I can see who you are making plans with."
This si the first time she has ever made a request like this, but I have nothing to hide so I told her to go ahead. 20 minutes later after going through WhatsApp, TextNow, and messenger. (And probably some other things. I was watching a show at the moment so I wasn't really paying much attention.) She gives me my phone back with nothing to say. Of course my smart ass makes a remark saying "You see? I told you that you are the only one for me." After that we had a pretty normal evening together and were laughing and having fun. When I asked her about it, she said that it is because she has been very angry at everything recently and thinks that because of that I am going to go out looking for someone else. I told her "look beautiful, I know that sometimes you get angry at little things, that is a part of you and it is who you are, if I couldn't handle it, I would have left you a while ago. Sorry, but you're stuck with me." We laughed at that and went on with the day.
I work as a salesman so I sometimes leave in order to visit clients. She understands that it is necessary, but of course we always make video calls when I am in the hotel. We live right next to each other, but not in the same house. I live on the same property as her, but she lives with her parents in a separate house. She works as a customer service representative at the same company and we both work from home. So there is a lot of time we can spend together when her parents are out of the house at their jobs.
Now when I told her goodnight, I sent her a message like I always do. Saying things like She is the one for me and I love her and that she makes me happy. And her response was "how suspicious" So obviously she still is thinking something is going on. I don't know how to get her to trust me. She was always insecure about how she looks, but I think she is extremely beautiful and you have never heard a better laugh than her's. I don't have any friends here in Mexico other than her. Doesn't bother me. Her family is cool and she is my best friend.
I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I just have no idea where this came from. So, any girls have some advice on insecure girls? Or do you think that something else is going on? Any advice is appreciated.
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2023.04.01 06:14 Righteous_Ending [fo4] help needed ! Mods// walls and floors disapeared. (no meshes, can walk right trough as if i use the console command disable)

[fo4] help needed ! Mods// walls and floors disapeared. (no meshes, can walk right trough as if i use the console command disable)
I use a lot of mods. I cant find wich one is responsible and i use to have a save a few mods back that was in nuka world with nothing missing. now i got there with my new character and a few of the walls, floors and decors is just missing... some was flickering too but i seem to have found a fix for that. i tried to restore the file integrity but to no avail.
load order:# This file was automatically generated by Mod Organizer.
Unofficial Fallout 4 Patch.esp
Companion Infinite Ammo.esm
A Forest.esp
Immersive HUD.esp
Reverb and Ambiance Overhaul.esp
The Eyes Of Beauty.esp
Armorsmith Extended.esp
Power Armor HUD Switcher.esp
Suit Up.esp
IAF - Far Harbor & Nuka World.esp
LooksMenu Customization Compendium.esp
Stimpaks help you breathe.esp
GS Lever Action Shotgun.esp
ODW - Winchester Model 1873.esp
New Landscape Grass v4 Light .esp
Grasslands - Healthy.esp
dD-Enhanced Blood Basic.esp
Raider Children.esp
Wasteland Illumination.esp
America Rising - A Tale of the Enclave.esp
AA FusionCityRising.esp
Killable Children.esp
Publick Occurrences Expanded.esp
Raider Gang Extended NPC (Fixed & Cleaned).esp
Vivid Waters.esp
Backpacks of the Commonwealth.esp
AA 50 Ways To Die.esp
NAC X Water LOD Fix.esp
Marmo1233 - PowerArmorAirdrop.esp
Heavy BoS.esp
Peketo_The servants of world creator.esp
Wasteland Heroines Replacer All in One_2.0.esp
dD-Action Ragdoll Force.esp
Smoke-able Cigars.esp
Third Person Movement Speed Fix.esp
T-60 Equipment.esp
SS2_XDI Patch.esp
Gatling Laser Overhaul.esp
Lasers Have No Recoil.esp
Dirty Raiders Standalone for CBBE.esp
Unbreakable Power Armor Player Only.esp
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2023.04.01 06:12 Remarkable_Ad2672 Could someone lend me Resident Evil 4 Remake for PS4 in digital?

I had the money but it was stolen :"(
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2023.04.01 06:11 happyapathy22 Just got done with Did Somebody Say Yoga and Jesus, Amanda sucks ass right now.

Of course the point of playing this M-rated game where you're a notorious criminal is that no one's a saint, but this mission does make Amanda seem like a damn good foil for Michael. First she cheats on him with her tennis coach, cares so little about doing it she's only concerned about her side man's safety, then (I'm pretty sure) she cheats on him again with Fabien, who she has the balls to openly refer to as "my Fabien" in her parting letter, berates Michael in the opening cutscene of the mission (and in several cutscenes before) as if he's the only bad person in the family, lightly taunts him while he, in her own words, finally takes an interest in her hobbies and does yoga with her, then, when she and Fabien imitate doggystyle right in front of Michael, she calls him "pathetic" and somehow psychopathic for retaliating.
Jimmy's pretty uncool in this mission too, and I was sort of behind him in earlier ones. He hypocritically uses the chance to call his dad a sh*try parent for generalizing his [Jimmy's] generation, after he had just done the same, drugs his father and tells him he stole his money to move out before kicking him out of the car he also steals, then lies to Amanda that Michael gave the drugs to him.
I don't remember at the moment if it was said before this that Michael cheated on Amanda (edit: just saw an old comment that it was with another stripper). I just remember the priest in the end of the prologue saying he wasn't the best father, and he still isn't at this point (you know, being a renewed criminal and all, let alone whatever faults he has domestically), but either way, he didn't deserve what happens to him in this mission.
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2023.04.01 06:10 ConeConado Trading this account for one of NA with Space Ishtar and castoria +4 SSR Tezcatlipoca NP2 dated image Now have 115 Saint Quartz

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2023.04.01 06:10 unicornbubblemaker My (F 22) ex (M 23) slept with someone 4 days after we broke up

My ex and I have been dating 2.5 years, and just split up 4 days ago. We currently live together and still have the lease for 2 months. It's been quite awkward, but civil. We have been making it work, I take bed he takes couch or vice versa. I found out he slept with someone tonight. 4 days after we broke up!
I also forgot to mention that he cheated on me, and that was part of the reason we broke up. I was willing to work things out, but he thought differently. He thinks we were trying to hard and not getting anywhere. But to me, I think he was using the cheating as an excuse to leave.
Anyways, I just wondered if this is something people do and why? Sleep with someone totally different, 4 days after a break up, and have no feelings of guilt or shame at all. Why do I still miss him? And why do I feel like shit? This is awful.
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2023.04.01 06:08 ultimateunbannable It was a 50/50 every day

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2023.04.01 06:08 alfsuperfan This is 13 pages long. This is my entire story.

Finding this subreddit has been so therapeutic and validating for me. I’m 26, married to the love of my life (32M) with the most amazing 5yo stepdaughter.
Reading all of your stories has inspired me to sit down and type out my own. I must warn you, there are times when I am the villain. Buckle up. This is a small novel.
If we start at the very beginning, my DH began dating HCBM (33) when they were very young in their early 20s. Shortly into their relationship it became clear to DH that she was struggling with very severe alcoholism. I cannot even begin to write out all of the stories I have heard from DH about her alcoholism. He was very young, didn’t have a positive model for a healthy relationship as a child. He believed he could help HCBM. They were extremely on and off together for almost 7 years. Every time he’d try to break up with her she would weasel her way back in. She would go as far as showing up at his family events because she had his family wrapped around her finger (don’t worry, that changed. Read on.) She almost drank herself to death several times. The police in her town know her by name and recognize her car because her family has had to call in for welfare checks so many times. She’s had bits where she’s gone missing for several hours. Been listed as a missing person. Had the police ping her phone. I’ve read the police reports myself.
Where do I even begin with her family? Her parents are extremely proud. They own two businesses in their small town. They’re the kind of people who are very obsessed with image and making people think they’re wealthy. HCBM started drinking when she was 16. Her parents would deal with her problem by sweeping it under the rug and hiding it. They cared more about their pride than getting her the help she needed. When they were together, my DH was often the one who would drive her to AA meetings. HCBM didn’t like AA because she felt she was above the other people there. Her family now despises my DH, and weaves a narrative that she drank because of her toxic relationship with him. Though her drinking problems existed long before and after their relationship.
I’ll share a few stores in particular with the goal of establishing the absolute delusion that HCBM feeds to anyone who will listen about my DH.
There was one evening where they were at my DH’s uncle’s house in the city. The thing about HCBM is that you never saw her drink until she was drunk. She’d sneak in a bathroom or what have you to drink. DH and HCBM got into some kind of argument and she ran off into the city late at night. DH spent several hours driving around the city searching for her until he finally found her in a bar, making out with a random guy. He said “you can take her home tonight” and left. Several hours later in the wee hours of the morning, HCBM stumbled back to the uncle’s house, wasted and crying.
Another occasion, DH was at work and HCBM was at his apartment (she did not live there) and went to hang out with his upstairs neighbors who were girls. She got drunk with them. When DH got home, he tried to explain to his neighbors that she had a problem and shouldn’t be drinking…. They said “don’t control her! That’s manipulative”. DH went back downstairs, HCBM followed, and they fought. She ran back to the neighbors crying and the girls stormed down into his apartment saying “What did you do to her? What did you do to her?!”
A different time HCBM was drunk she had locked herself in DH’s roommate’s room. He was trying to explain to her that she needed to come out, that it wasn't his room and she couldn’t be in there. HCBM called DH’s mom (now my MIL) and began wailing “he’s doing it again, he’s being crazy again!” God knows what she was talking about. Eventually DH called HCBM’s dad who came to pick her up. HCBM’s dad dragged her by her arm down the stairs rather roughly, and DH got upset, like “hey I get that she is drunk and being a problem but you can’t manhandle her like that” so HCBM’s dad responded my shoving DH up against a wall and holding his arm to his throat.
Shall I go on? There are dozens more. The worst is yet to come.
Anyways, about four years into their relationship, after multiple incidents of infidelity on her part, DH started chatting with other women sporadically. He says he knew it was wrong, but he thought if he could show himself there were other women out there who could make him happy, other stable relationships he could be in, he might be able to get away from HCBM. It was about five years into their relationship that DH actually cheated. And so begins HCBM’s favorite narrative, that DH was an awful, unsupportive unfaithful partner who drove her to drinking because he was so shady. She will never, ever consider the fact that my DH to this day is traumatized from their relationship. He’s been in therapy several times and every single therapist identifies her as a narcissist.
Several years ago when DH and I met I was in college. We had an on and off fling for a while on the coattails of him trying to end it with HCBM once and for all after over six years stuck in a cycle. I think my DH made poor decisions, dumb even. But I sympathize with the trauma bond he was stuck in with this woman, and how difficult it was for him to cut ties with someone who would go to great lengths to insert herself in his life, and with the pressure of his family saying he should be with her. He cut things off with me and fell back in with HCBM. Lo and behold… HCBM gets pregnant. This may be shocking…. But it was not a good situation to be bringing a baby into. HCBM was 28 at the time. She was (and still is) working for her mom at the business she owns because she had gotten fired from every other job for showing up drunk. A side note, her mom owns a gymnastics center where she is a teacher. My DH has told me about several times her mother would text him to come pick her up because she’d shown up drunk. Her mom would get her out of there and just sub in another instructor to cover her ass. Anyways, DH was terrified. However, DH grew up without a father, so there was no way he wasn’t going to be involved in his child’s life. It is an impossible thing to talk about in hindsight because I love my SD so dearly, she turns mine and DH’s world. But DH told HCBM to terminate initially. And to be fair, he was right. It was not a stable situation to bring a child into. Would I reverse time and change anything? Never in a million years.
As you may have guessed, HCBM decided to keep the baby. She repeatedly told DH that if he left, he would not see his child. DH was stuck and miserable. During her pregnancy, while HDBM was parading about as if they were this cute happy couple, DH began to miss me. He realized he had real feelings for me, and he reached out. I loved him the moment I met him, so I was thrilled. I’ll keep this part concise; DH began cheating on HCBM with me, and I knew. It was an ugly decision on both of our parts. Despite how much I loathe HCBM, she is a person. She did not deserve that. DH and I are both pretty ashamed about our choices back then. I’ll go into detail later about how both DH and I have tried to atone for our actions.
When she was about 7 months pregnant, HCBM caught on and contacted me. Those conversations are forever burned in my mind. She said some of the most disconnected, ridiculous shit I’ve ever seen. She was obsessed with the image she was trying to portray to everyone about her life. I’ll never forget one conversation where we were discussing their daughter’s impending arrival… I had said something along the lines of “do you think it’s wise to bring a child into this situation,” and she said “I have lots of help. I’m old enough.”
“I’m old enough.”
Like she’s a kid trying to convince her parents to let her stay out past midnight.
DH and I broke things off before SD arrived. I was heartbroken, but let’s be real, that was a mess. An entire mess.
Still, HCBM thought it was just a brilliant idea for her and DH to move in together. So her parent’s rented them a house in their small town…. DH kept paying the rent on his apartment the city about 45 minutes away. DH has told me how miserable their relationship was, and HCBM knew all about his affair with me. But like I said, she was desperately trying to create this pretend life for herself.
SD arrives, a day I am so glad to celebrate each year. She is truly the joy of my life. DH cried more than she did. He was instantly in love with his baby girl.
About three weeks later, HCBM is back on the bottle.
DH told me about how he’d come home from work and find her drunk. She’d grab the baby and lock herself in a bedroom and cry. DH feared for his child’s safety.
HCBM was only able to breastfeed for a month or so because she stopped producing milk due to heinous dieting. She was obsessed with getting back to her pre-pregnancy weight. She would eat only miso soup for days on end. This poor relationship to food comes into play later. HCBM’s mother was always over at the house. Cleaning up, buying them things. Contributing to the facade.
DH was severely depressed. He continued to stay with HCBM to monitor her drinking and watch out for his daughter. They got to a point where DH would sleep on the couch. One night DH came home and HCBM was drunk again with SD in her care. DH called her parents who came rushing over to remedy the situation as they always do. Shortly after they arrived, HCBM had slumped over on the couch and became unresponsive. An ambulance was called. DH says it was one of his most traumatic memories holding his baby daughter watching the EMT’s resuscitate her mother wondering how he would raise this girl on his own.
After a hospital stay, HCBM returned home and her parents ordered pizza and put on a movie and pretended as if nothing had happened. That was the routine. When DH expressed his anger, his justifiable concern for what was going on, HCBM’s parents treated him as though he was the problem, he was an asshole for bringing it up and blaming her.
It wasn’t long after this, SD must’ve been around eight months old that HCBM was on a binge and DH returned home from work to find the house empty. He frantically began calling people to locate SD when HCBM’s parents informed him that she was with them, and that HCBM had crawled out a window and was missing. A missing person’s report was filed. HCBM’s father told police to check ditches and park benches, as she could often be found there. She turned out to be at some random man’s house, and was located about 36 hours later.
DH was at the end of his ropes. He took the police report and lawyered up secretly.
Here’s a fun new component to the story, remember how I said that DH had began sleeping on the couch? In said police report, it is documented that DH and HCBM were not in a relationship and were merely roommates. Because that was the situation. Behind the scenes, HCBM had met the man of her dreams. Let’s call him PF….. for psycho fiance. Yes, they’re engaged now. We’ll get to that part. PF randomly messaged HCBM on facebook and they began talking. PF was a recovering alcoholic in his 30s with no driver’s license due to a DUI.
Now, recall when HCBM was missing? Her parents searched through her facebook accounts to try and locate her and found her messages with PF, they explained their daughter’s drinking problem and asked PF if she may be with him. She was not. They had not even met yet. But PF thinks this woman who clearly has severe personal issues is just the cream of the crop. He decides to take her out to lunch. By the end of their lunch date, he is love-bombing the daylights out of her. Calling her his wife, his galaxy, all of this grandiose crap.
Two weeks after they met, PF got HCBM’s name tattooed on him. While DH was trying to sort out a plan of action with his lawyer…. HCBM informs him that he has to move out so that PF can move in because he will soon be without a place to live. She wants to invite this man she’s known for three weeks to live with her and her baby daughter. I’ve seen the message she sent to DH, it reads, “I know it seems fast but I know in my heart that he is so good.” HCBM’s parents are thrilled.
Less than a week after PF had moved in and DH was out, the ex parte motion was filed. DH was granted full emergency custody of SD until a hearing could be held. HCBM did not see SD for nine days… and of course, DH was the villain for this.
At the hearing. DH was awarded majority custody, with HCBM being allowed one overnight a week. PF was not permitted to be present when SD was there for overnights until CPS could investigate.
Now, HCBM’s parents funneled money for lawyers, rent, utilities, basically any adult expense HCBM needs is taken care of by her parents. DH did not have the same luxury. He was working himself to death as a single dad trying to pay for his lawyer while the court battle ensued. Almost two months later, DH contacted me. We hadn’t spoken in close to a year. I was off living my own life almost halfway through college. DH just needed someone to talk to about it, and still had very strong feelings for me. I was a shoulder for him to lean on.
We began hooking up, with no real intention to enter into a relationship. I met SD and would watch her while he was at work. There was an obvious deep love between DH and me, but the circumstances were just so insane. Plus, HCBM despised me, and was weaving stories to the court about how DH was an emotionally abusive partner, a narcissist and the reason for all her drinking.
DH and I did not want the drama of HCBM knowing I was around. Since we were operating under the guise that this was just an indulgence and would end at some point, we kept our interactions a secret.
Then, the universe must’ve thought we were owed some karma for what we did during HCBM’s pregnancy. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age five and have had a prescription for stimulants since a very young age.
One morning I awoke and heard what sounded like tiny wretching from the other room. My medication had spilled out in the bottom of my purse as the safety cap was screwed on crooked. SD was playing on the floor and digging around in my purse. DH noticed her putting something in her mouth, realized it was my medication and immediately ran into the bathroom and began making her puke.
I called poison control who instructed us to bring her to the hospital. She seemed relatively normal, a bit dazed maybe. We called the ER to let them know we’d be arriving. We got there and they stuck charcoal down her throat, drew blood, the whole ordeal.
I brought my medication bottle with me to give to the nurses so they knew what she had ingested and to prove it was a legally obtained prescription. I was frantic and bawling, a nurse comforted me and told me that ingestions are extremely common and we had done the right thing by bringing her in.
SD had an elevated heart rate, was fussy and stressed. She was administered medication to help lower her heart rate and as a result had to be admitted to be monitored. The blood tests came back with extremely minimal amounts of my meds in her system, but it was protocol that she be monitored after the medication was given to regulate her heart. If you’re feeling anxious, I’ll add that SD is perfectly healthy and happy, she fully recovered and did not suffer any seizures or damage to her brain/liver etc. which were the primary concerns with this ingestion.
Since she was being admitted, HD had to inform HCBM. I had told him he should tell her immediately, but he did not want to deal with her reaction or her family arriving. I think this was a poor decision on his part. As flawed a person as she is, I do know that HCBM loves SD very much, and I can sympathize with her wanting to be informed if her daughter was being seen at the hospital.
HCBM and her family arrived, I had left to avoid the fallout and gather some things for DH to drop off while he stayed at the hospital with SD. Naturally, HCBM was in a blind rage that she had not been contacted immediately. She demanded that the CPS worker who was mandated to check in because of the ingestion file a report of negligence. The CPS worker declined, saying that there was no negligence to report. That evening, security was called to remove HCBM from the hospital because she was screaming at DH in the pediatric wing. She was told she could return on her custody day.
I went to visit DH and SD the next day, she was back to her old self and able to go home. We were nowhere near prepared for what was about to ensue.
HCBM had weaved a story that I was addicted to drugs, and that whatever I was doing had to have been in a plastic bag in my purse or how else would SD have gotten into it? HCBM and her lawyer filed an ex parte motion. Now I’m sure most of you are familiar with the workings of family court, but for those of you who aren’t; and ex parte motion is an emergency motion. It is a piece of paper laid in front of a judge. The details can be as vague or exaggerated as the writer pleases them to be, and it is not until a hearing is scheduled can anything be disputed.
HCBM and her lawyer claimed that SD had ‘overdosed’ on stimulant drugs and conveniently failed to mention that they were a legal prescription. More than that, ‘overdose’ was a completely sensationalized description of what had occurred, and not a term used at all by any of the medical professionals nor was it included anywhere in her chart of the incident. SD never lost consciousness. There was never a point where doctors were in fear for her life. But the judge sees what is put before them and signs off with the limited information they are given.
When HD filed an ex parte motion against HCBM, the hearing was scheduled for nine days later. When HCBM filed an ex parte motion against DH, the hearing was scheduled over two months later.
This was the worst time period in DH’s life. He attempted suicide. He lost an insane amount of weight. He sold beloved possessions to pay his lawyer. He did not have custody of his daughter and HCBM allowed him rare visits in public places once or twice a week.
But ah, how the tables turn.
A month before the hearing on the ex parte motion, HCBM got a DUI with SD in the car. Her driving was so ballistic, someone had called in her car. She was arrested. I could go into detail about the bullshit-ery of her and her family I read in the police report from that, but there is still so much ground to cover.
CPS notified DH of the DUI. HCBM and her lawyer told DH’s lawyer they wanted to settle custody outside of court before the ex parte hearing.
DH was exhausted. He was broke. He just wanted his daughter back. He settled with HCBM on 50/50 custody. This is perhaps the greatest regret of his life. The GAL at the meeting even told DH he didn’t have to do this, that he could fight her and probably get more custody. But DH was a shell of a person at this point. He was in debt. He was exhausted.
Mere days after they settled he checked himself into an inpatient mental health facility for treatment. He and I were in touch every once in a while throughout that entire time, but had ended our romantic relations after the ex parte was filed. I was more of a confidant and friend, but he had drifted apart from everyone in his life and I was focused on school.
The day that DH left inpatient, PF messaged him to tell him that HCBM had slipped up and drank again. Saying, “she just has such a big heart, this is so difficult for her.” DH suspects that she had gotten herself into another nearly lethal situation or gone missing and PF was hoping to do damage control by contacting him rather than him finding out another way.
So 50/50 custody it was. Nine months later, HCBM gave birth to her and PF’s son. I’m not sure of any exact dates but judging by the date of that message and the birth of the baby there is a high change HCBM was drinking while unknowingly pregnant.
For the DUI, HCBM was sentenced to 40 days in jail while pregnant with her son. It was a work release program. Since she worked for her mom, she worked as many hours as she possibly could. Her mom would pick her up from prison with her phone and her makeup so she could hide what was going on from her coworkers and the community. DH would bring SD to the gymnastics center to visit her. She had an IED put into her car when she was released, meaning she had to blow into a breathalyzer to get her car to start.
DH and I would check in every once in a while over the course of the next year. We both dated other people. HCBM of course had issues with DH’s girlfriend he was with for a few months. But things had relatively settled save for the tension and resentment between HCBM and DH.
More than a year had passed since everything transpired and since DH and I were last romantically involved. We began talking more frequently during COVID lockdown and DH admitted he was hopelessly in love with me and wanted to be together. We had a major problem though.
When HCBM and DH were settling on their custody agreement, HCBM insisted I was not to be around SD. If you recall, HD was broke, exhausted, and severely struggling with his mental health. He and I hadn’t seen each other in person in several months, we talked but very infrequently and never of rekindling our relationship in any capacity. So he gave in. As long as he could be done with the nightmare and have his daughter back.
A single sentence in a five-page custody agreement meant that I couldn’t be around SD. I want to specify, this was not a restraining order. I was never served any papers, I would not be punished in any capacity were I to see SD, there was no court record of any kind indicating that I was restricted from seeing a child or was a dangerous individual. DH wouldn’t even lose custody or face any legal ramifications were he to violate that single sentence, it would just mean an official would have to intervene to investigate and ensure the stipulation be adhered to. Still, it would’ve prevented us from having any sort of real relationship. So we filed a motion to have the line removed. I had not seen SD in well over a year and we abided by the order which was exceedingly painful.
The first hearing was before a court commissioner. We came armed with letters of recommendation from friends and family, from the families I had nannied for during college. DH’s family had finally seen the light and turned against HCBM and attended the court hearing, filing the seats.
The court commissioner spent about ten minutes reviewing our plea, and decided this was not a matter of my character or whether I was a threat to SD, but that this was a communication issue between DH and HCBM, and since DH had agreed to this, they needed to work it out between the two of them.
Ha. Like that would ever happen. DH and HCBM began communicating through a court monitored app and attending co parenting counseling while our lawyer filed a motion to bring the issue before a judge and have a GAL and Family Court Worker appointed. As we all know with family court, things move slowly and this we had to wait months to make progress on our case.
Co parenting counseling was fruitless. HCBM is not capable of accountability. She insisted DH was a narcissist because she’d read about narcissism on the internet and she believed she deserved full custody of SD.
A judge appointed a GAL and Family Court Worker to our case. I’ll never forget the relief that day as the judge told HCBM that me being in SD’s life was inevitable at this point. There was no evidence that I was a dangerous person. At one point, our lawyer brought up the language used in HCBM’s ex parte motion all that time ago, pointing out the sensational language used, specifically the term “overdose”. I was shaking when HCBM’s lawyer admitted to the judge that “there was no overdose.” I’ll never forget the sheepish look on that lawyer’s face, or how HCBM’s jaw tightened as she refused to look even a millimeter in my direction.
Everyone met with the GAL and Family Court Worker. Of course HCBM got the earliest appointment possible so she could try to sell her story. When I sat down with the GAL he said “I don’t know why you’re here, to be honest.” But that’s the ridiculous thing about family court, people can just spew this insane shit and it has to be looked into.
Both the GAL and Family Court Worker recommended the line be removed entirely. We still had to wait another month for our hearing for these recommendations to be made to the judge. Over the course of these proceedings, DH and his lawyer (with my consent) had been urging HCBM to attend a co parenting counseling session with me to address her concerns. HCBM of course vehemently refused, actually speaking to me would destroy the picture she had painted and deluded herself into believing about me.
We continued to press the issue though. After the GAL and Family Court Worker’s recommendations were passed on to everyone’s lawyers, it was clear this was not going to go in HCBM’s favor. It could’ve easily been settled outside of court, saved everyone time and money. But that was never going to happen, HCBM was going to go down swinging. Less than two weeks from our final hearing before the judge, HCBM agreed to attend co parenting counseling with me. Both parties signed NDA’s before going into these sessions, they were meant to be mediation for parents to work out their issues and not dig up fodder to toss around in court. A safe place, if you will. DH and I suspected she’d want to attend a session with me so she could fabricate some story about me being awful, or make it seem like she was being reasonable since she’d refused any and all attempts to mediate this issue civilly.
We were correct, but her feeble attempts at control were fruitless and the line was removed. I could see my girl again. Since then, DH and I got married and have been in absolute bliss as a family of three. But of course, the mess with HCBM does not stop there.
DH and I have no idea it HCBM has been drinking or not. We have no proof. She claims she got sober, but she never received any professional help or rehab so that seems doubtful to me. There are a few red flags. She now shares a car with her mother, claiming her car has “been in the shop” for well over a year now. DH explained that when she would go on drinking binges, her parents would take her car away so they could control where she went and monitor her.
We’ve also had the issue of SD not wanting to go to her mom’s house. I have ring video footage of HCBM coming to pick up SD. SD was in hysterics, she ran back in our house several times while HCBM stands annoyed in the driveway. DH sits with her and consoles her, encouraging her and telling her she will have so much fun with her mom and brother. On this particular occasion, it took 45 minutes to get SD to go with her mom. This happened numerous times. DH eventually brought this up to HCBM, expressing his concerns and saying that he wished she would participate in co-parenting their daughter in these situations rather than hiding behind her car. HCBM dismissed him, saying she was a great parent and he was obviously making SD act this way. Give SD an oscar at this point. I can’t even fathom what DH would say to make a five year old act that way.
Eventually, HCBM stopped picking SD up and instead sent her mom to get her. SD has no issue going with her grandmother. A bit suspicious to me that it was specifically her mom that caused such an upset for her.
HCBM is very obsessed with image. She dresses SD in expensive outfits with intricate hairstyles. I should add, expensive outfits that are purchased for her by HCBM’s mother. She has told DH that she is not pleased with how he sends SD to school and has concerns about his ability to parent. He sends her… a 5 year old… to school in leggings and t-shirts like the rest of the 5 year olds in her class. Don’t get me wrong, I love to dress SD up when she’ll let me and I have indulged in Rylee and Cru outfits and what not, but the majority of the time SD wears normal kid clothes. She runs and jumps and plays and likes pink and sparkles and tops with her favorite characters on them. We let her pick her crazy mismatched outfits and throw her hair up in a quick bun or braid so it is out of her face. She bathes almost excessively because she loves the bath and is a very well looked after child.
Now, HCBM lost a significant amount of weight after she got together with PF. Her mother is also extremely thin. DH has told me about how they were always doing fad diets, they’d call themselves fat and critique their appearances constantly and clearly did not have a healthy relationship to their bodies or food.
At our home, SD is fed a balanced diet but I try to encourage a positive relationship to her body and food. No food is “good” or “bad,” they simply serve different purposes. For example, carbs give us energy, protein helps us grow, sugar makes us happy, etc. Creating guilt around eating certain types of food can lead to eating disorders, body image issues, I know because I had a poor relationship to food and my body for so long. SD loves fruits and veggies. She also loves chips and candy. She is allowed to indulge in sugar within reason and without guilt. I don’t think it's rocket science, and for us it has had fantastic results. We'll be at a gas station and ask SD if she wants a snack and the kid will want celery. I follow the instagram page “kids eat in color” very closely and when we prepare SD’s meals, the “treat” component is served together with the rest and not withheld until later. This is so SD doesn’t view certain foods as special or more desirable than others, and won’t associate treat foods with this rush of excitement and overwhelming positivity moreso than say chicken nuggets or carrots. When DH sets down her plate to eat, SD rarely if ever reaches for her treat food first. She eats everything on her plate until her body tells her she’s full.
HCBM constantly berates DH about SD eating “healthy.” She criticizes him for getting candy at the movies. Goes off about her having a cup of sugar-free pudding at 11 a.m. On Halloween, SD is allowed two pieces of candy from her trick or treat pile at her mom’s house.
Last Halloween at our house, we dumped all of our candy out in a huge pile and watched a movie. SD ate, I kid you not, four pieces of candy. She didn’t feel the need to binge on all this candy because she knew it wouldn’t be withheld if she asked for more in our home. There is still halloween candy in a bucket in our pantry and we weren’t even out trick or treating for an hour.
HCBM accuses us of “competing” with her. This. Is. Rich. SD loves visiting my parent’s and sometime last fall took a liking to playing my dad’s drumset. Later that week, HCBM bought her a kid-sized drumset. We adopted a kitten, HCBM adopted a kitten. We started playing barbies as a family, HCBM buys a barbie dreamhouse. We planned a weekend trip to a big city a few hours away, HCBM and PF take SD and their son to that city the week before we’re supposed to go. My husband is a Dungeons and Dragons fanatic, and recently he has been making kid friendly campaigns for the three of us to play as a family. SD loves playing dungeons and dragons with her daddy. It has become our family’s thing. The dungeons and dragons movie came out recently and DH and I got tickets for an early screening on a day we didn’t have SD. Who do you think we saw there while we were waiting in line to get popcorn? Their family does not play dungeons and dragons. You’ll be pleased to know that SD came down to sit with us for the last half hour of the movie, PF who had taken her had to give in because they were seated a row behind us and she kept leaning forward to excitedly whisper to DH about the movie.
I have suffered extreme emotional issues due to the abuse from HCBM. I’ve attended therapy specifically to address it. I developed severe social anxiety because HCBM will tell anyone who listens these fictions about me and DH. We live in a small community, one that HCBM and her family have been a part of for a long time and I am constantly afraid people I meet will know them and have these crazy ideas about who I am as a person. The flipside of this is that their family’s reputation is not as positive as they like to think it is, particularly to police in the area. In addition to HCBM’s drunk escapades involving police, her father has a court record pages long for tax fraud.
Thankfully, I work in the city 30 minutes from where we live and that has allowed me to build my own village and have a life untainted by HCBM and her crap. Through lots of work I have been able to establish firm boundaries. I’ve had to restrict HCBM and her friends from my social media accounts after being watched obsessively. HCBM’s mother even went as far as messaging my mother on Facebook to try and say DH is a narcissist and she should be concerned for me. DH and my mom are very close, and my mom was mainly worried about how far these people were going to go to untether my life.
HCBM doesn’t seem to understand the concept of equal guardianship. She views herself as the primary parent and believes she should have access to everything in our lives. This is legally not the case so luckily we’re just able to ignore those demands but it gets taxing.
HCBM’s parents pay for SD’s health insurance so HCBM makes all of her doctor and dentist appointments and acts as though that’s because DH is an uninvolved parent, despite the fact that he has asked to make appointments on his custody days so he could go. I have excellent benefits at my job and could take SD on as a dependent since she resides with us 50% of the time. We haven’t even proposed this idea to HCBM because god knows she would never agree despite the fact that this would probably save her parents a ton of money.
HCBM has SD involved in several activities on her custody days. A bit too many for a five year old in my opinion. Multiple gymnastics and dance classes and soccer. Since HCBM’s parents are always funneling her money and paying her bills they are constantly going out to do expensive activities, weekend trips, shows, you name it. HCBM thinks these things make her a good parent, but I personally don’t think that SD feels as emotionally attached to HCBM as she does DH. DH and I spend a ton of one on one time with SD. We play with her with her toys, we do crafts, we watch movies together. HCBM thinks dropping her off at some expensive activity makes her this stellar mom, but she doesn’t engage in the same level of connection with SD that DH does. HCBM’s parents of course bought them a trip to Disney World last year, and the day they came to pick up SD to leave for the airport she did not want to go. She began crying and insisting she wanted her dad to take her, and that she would miss him too much. What five year old objects to effing Disney World??
We have issues on the horizon with SD attending kindergarten next year. I know a battle will ensue about where she attends. The custody schedule does not give us any weekend time because when it was written, SD was one and DH was working weekends and the days they agreed on coincided with his schedule. This means that when SD attends school in the fall five days a week, we will not get a full day together as a family. DH and I are very nervous about addressing this. We don’t have any desire to change the 50/50 custody, just to adjust the days so that we can have some weekend time with SD. It is likely this issue will end up in court and cost us thousands.
I have had to come to the hard acceptance that this is just how our relationship with HCBM will be, likely forever. I hold on to selfish hope that she may screw up drinking again, but at the end of the day I want what is best for SD which is a healthy and stable mother and I will do whatever I can to encourage a positive relationship for them. At this point we have no proof of her drinking for the past few years. Either she miraculously stopped or her family’s response is just so calculated to protect her from getting into any shit and jeopardizing her custody. If that is the case, that can only go on for so long before SD is old enough to tell us what is happening.
I think that HCBM is deeply insecure and ashamed. I think she needs to make DH and I the villains so she feels better about herself. I think her upbringing has allowed her to shirk any and all accountability, she is surrounded by people who tell her she’s never wrong and she’s this great person and great parent.
I don’t know what the resolution is here. If you have read this far, thank you sincerely. Though I confide in my mom and friends about the situation with HCBM, I keep my venting to a minimum so as not to let her live rent free in my life. I am not going to spend all this energy being pissed at her and her immaturity. I’m not going to give her the satisfaction of getting on my nerves, being the subject of my conversations. I’m not even going to let her think I care enough to trash her to people. But it feels extremely therapeutic to get this all out to a group of people who understand.
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2023.04.01 06:05 Anora6666 Sat Courtside at the SLC Stars playoff game

I went the Stars playoff game that happened on Tuesday and I had a few thoughts I wanted to share that I found interesting.
First, this was the second time that I've sat basically in the first 2 rows at Vivint. The last time was actually Sloan's second to last game against the KD/Harden/Russ OKC team that went to the finals behind the Jazz bench. That was a whole other experience that was incredible. So this isn't my first rodeo with going up to ushers, proving that yes, that is my seat etc.
A few thoughts in general:
- I sat next to a family and next to their two young-ish kids. This is usually okay but there's one thing that was glaringly apparent to me and if you have kids (I do not) please explain to them exactly what is and what isn't a foul. My seat was essentially right where the OOB ref would stand to make calls. This kid just yelling the whole game about fouls all night and heckling the refs. Man... teach yo kids better. Teaching them to just complain about every call is just awful. This is why the at-arena experience at most NBA games sucks, it's IMO an excuse to do two things for some people. They want to yell at the refs. Or they want to yell at players. Both are not cool.
- This goes along with the first one. The G-League is also for the Refs too. Two lady refs and I heard some sexist BS from fans super close too. This is to be expected in Utah in general. I hate going to Jazz games with Lady refs, not because I think the lady refs are bad but every "bad call" is because the "lady ref made a bad call" it's gross and grow up. Be better. Especially someone who I think does Jazz media that I sat near but not 100%. Like yeah.. there are missed calls. But also you can legitimately call a foul every possession. The refs IMO try their best and the angles they get are not great. The TV angles you get at home are much better for seeing plays and actually fouls develop. I don't think I disagreed with any foul that was called that I was able to see from where I was.
- Was a little annoyed that they seemingly oversold the front row or didn't seat people properly so when I showed up "my seat was given to someone else" and they had to jam some more down there. That was a little annoying.
- The halftime spread is legit. I can see now why courtside people are late back to their seats (I wasn't though.) I enjoyed a lot of surprisingly wide variety of vegan options at half time. The arena in general has awful vegan options so just seeing things like fresh and steamed veggies and fresh cut fruit was dope as hell.
- I will say that it's always interesting to hear the plays and playcalls from the floor seats. If you have an opportunity even if it's just a Minor league game like this, it's a different experience.
- The 4 Two way players were heads and shoulders better than everyone else on floor. Fringe NBA talent is better than majority of the guys out there. I go to a lot of AAA games and that's the same thing. Fringe MLB (or MLB rehabilitation players) are just noticeably better. But also I think scouting for that talent is hard as balls because you might be able to polish a fringe guy into one or two elite skills and they can look like a major player in some way and that helps them along. I think it's interesting.
- Overall, it was pretty packed for a SLC Stars game. I haven't gone but there wasn't too many empty seats in the place. The game overall wasn't very good. The SkyForce was in control the entire game. The Stars made a short little run in the 4th but they were never closer than I think 6 or 7. Too bad.
I would go again. I think this scratched my "I want to sit courtside at a game" itch for a while. But we'll see what happens next year. Seeing an NBA game courtside is a much much different experience for a variety of reasons but also it has that multiplier that even if you sit 5 rows back you get a similar experience without the price.
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2023.04.01 06:04 Disastrous-Oven340 Heyo! (22M)

So I recently went through a pretty bad breakup where my ex (24m) was emotionally abusive. He ended up really messing with me one day, worse than it ever was, and I told him to get lost.
Since then, which it's been about 2 months now, I've been going through my ups and downs. Still not completely over him yet.
After we split, I've started going through a very weird phase in my life. I don't really want to be with anyone anymore, not after being heartbroken twice. I want sex (I'm a virgin), but now after the way he emotionally abused me (body shaming, emotional manipulation, etc) I feel disgusted with my body and don't dare burden others or humiliate myself.
The questions I have that I'd liked this post to help me get answers to are,
  1. How would I know I'm ready to date again?
  2. How do I go about finding someone. By this, I mean I'm still comparing him to others and the likelihood of me finding someone like him again seems little to none.
  3. Being a gay male, I automatically know I have a very bad chance of finding a partner, since there aren't many guys or that's what is said. I'm terrified if I stop looking, I'll eventually be too old to find someone. I've always wanted to kind of grow old with someone.
  4. Going through the breakup led me to other reddit places like Heartbreak, breakup, etc. I've seen some insane stories on here about cheating, etc. I'm terrified of finding someone just to be heartbroken again. I think my heart is starting to tap out of dating all together.
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2023.04.01 06:04 AutoModerator April Fool's Game - Three Truths and A Lie

April Fool's Game - Three Truths and A Lie
Happy April Fool's Day, y'all! In honor of this day of fun and tricks, I present to you my version of Three Truths and a Lie. Click on the image to see all 4 book covers in their high-class glory. Below are their blurbs, but one is completely manufactured by my fractured brain. Your goal is to pick out the fake.
Clearly, cheating is easy. Don't be a party pooper and peek. The prize for winning is a set of brand new…bragging rights. Good luck!

FORBIDDEN LOVE, FATED MATES...alien love, human mate romance story of enemies to lovers in the cosmos.
Commander Qutan Rex-Prolan Dominant alpha alien male, cold, logical. Against my will, the council ordered me to claim Alia Benson - a smart, curvy, expressively chaotic female. A law practiced for centuries, I have total control over every emotions and craving. Love does not exist…and Alia threatens all that I have attained. Giving in to Alia’s aching desires could unleash the suppressed beast lurking within me. Is it worth losing everything for this forbidden passion?
Alia Benson Passion-seeking, virgin female Earth Universal scientist. My literal dream man shows up, saves me and I become his acquisition. I belong to this big, smoking hot Chironian fighter. And my dreams bonded us before we met. For a girl who’s waited her whole life to find true love, knowing my dream guy doesn’t feel the same is heartbreaking. How can I break through his resistance and show Qutan that risking it all on me is worth it? ☆☆☆ Moments before a cataclysmic solar flare hits earth, a nearby ship of rippling, male warrior feline aliens rescue as many human survivors as possible even though it is an unsanctioned, forbidden mission. By decree of the Council, humans are sold as slaves or fated to be acquired by the rescuing warriors who will protect them. Raised to be logical and control their emotions, these alpha, hot males live passionless lives. From enemies to lovers, this science fiction romance series tells the stories of how stimulating, powerful human female emotions literally transform three tall, fierce feline warriors forever.

Abducted! Imprisoned! Enslaved!
One minute Claire is getting ready for bed, the next she awakens to find herself in a crate. Cold, terrified, hungry and filthy. The HUGE, red, horned creature just outside promises things with his leers that she knows she won’t escape. But as the days endlessly blur together, something gives her hope. Something she can’t quite explain. Something comforting.
Outcast! Hated! Hunted!
The day his clan discovered his secret marked the end of everything. Keturidians outlawed and destroyed all Empaths generations ago. To be discovered as having The Power is a death sentence. On the run with no hope of peace or family, Mazchia moves from star system to star system with only his numbness as a companion. Until one night, in the silence, he feels her. She’s in trouble and she’s his. If only he can find her and convince her he’s Her Empath.

Very human Tau Cetus police agent Jai Turner goes undercover as a Beautiful Dolls sex robot in order to bring down the planet's most notorious arms dealer, Marque Callex. The police have never been able to get close to Callex, and Jai’s assignment is to coax information out of Marque on his illicit dealings – information that will lead to his conviction.
Reclusive arms dealer Marque Callex only accepted an invitation from Beautiful Dolls because with his deadly line of work – and the dangerous secrets he’s keeping – he can't afford to let a real woman into his life.
But neither Jai nor Marque are what they seem, and their week together has consequences neither expect.

One hundred years after the decision to outlaw childbirth and move to a more humane form of procreation, the earth has very few females left. Most of those are unable to become pregnant, due to a faulty system. Trillionaires Bill, John, David and Steve band together and bid on an auction for one of the few “breeding females” left. They plan it out as coldly as they would any other kind of business deal, knowing that down the road, they will eventually sell off any daughters born of the union.
April, a young woman sheltered from the outside world, is told by her father that he needs money and will be selling her at an auction to the highest bidder. He does his best to protect her in the auction, but she has no choice in the matter. April goes into the situation with a positive attitude, not expecting to fall for the men so quickly. When she finds out her plans for the future of her children, she must decide if her love of the men is stronger than the love of any children she may bear.
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2023.04.01 05:53 StepwiseUndrape574 GTA V Crowned Best-Selling Game Of The Decade, But Call Of Duty Dominates Top 10 List

The new decade has everyone feeling a little bit reflective, including fans of video games. The NPD Group, Inc. recently released a ton of information about the gaming market over the last ten years. This information included the best selling games of 2019 and the best selling games between 2010 and 2019. Grand Theft Auto V was the best selling game of the decade across all platforms, but the Call of Duty franchise truly won the 2010s.
The NPD Group, Inc. is a New York-based market research company that tracks twenty different industries. Mat Piscatella, a video games market research analyst, recently posted on Twitter the information that the company has gathered both over the last year and over the last decade. Grand Theft Auto V, with an estimated 110 million copies sold. However, the Call of Duty franchise may be the true MVP of the decade. Ten out of the fifteen most popular games in the 2010s were Call of Duty games. This includes the most recent addition to the franchise, Call of Duty: Modern Warfare. The best selling Call of Duty game was Call of Duty: Black Ops. The game was originally released in November 2010 for Microsoft Windows, the Nintendo DS, PlayStation 3, Wii, Xbox 360, and OS X and was later released on mobile. There may even be a reboot in 2020.
Several of the other best selling games of the decade are not a surprise. These games include Red Dead Redemption II, Minecraft, Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim, Mario Kart 8, Battlefield 1, Battlefield 4, Destiny, The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild, Star Wars Battlefront 2015. All of these games made a splash in the 2010s and some even inspired memes and their own cult followings.
The NPD Group, Inc. also released information about consoles. The Playstation 4 was the best selling console of the 2010s, while PS4 Dualshock 4 wireless controller in black was the best selling accessory. However, the Nintendo Switch dominated 2019. It was the best selling console of the year and Switch Pro controller was the best selling accessory.
call of duty modern warfare gameplay Call of Duty: Modern Warfare (2019)
The best-selling games of 2019 were a little more shocking. Call of Duty: Modern Warfare was unsurprisingly the best selling game of 2019, but it was followed by NBA 2K20 and Madden NFL 20. They beat out games such as Borderlands 3, Kingdom Hearts III, and the Outer Worlds which were games that were generally better reviewed and received more hype.Games from series like NBA 2K and Madden NFL appear to have a strong, consistent fan base.
What can the numbers from the 2010s tell us about the video game industry? There have been a variety of interesting games that have come out in the last decade, but the most popular genres appear to be first person shooters and action adventure games. It also seems that many video game fans were drawn to the “open world” concept. Will these preferences continue to reign throughout the 2020s? NPD Group, Inc. reported that that video game spending in general declined in 2019, but it is still a major industry. What do you think HotHardware readers? What video game trends will be the most popular in the 2020s?
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2023.04.01 05:48 ThrowRAredgoo I (32m) used the word sexy to describe cosplay outfits and my (29f) gf now thinks I'm interested in other girls. Need advice/perspective

Length of relationship: 4 months
Backstory: I decided to do a convention with my gf but due to our work schedules we couldn't get a day off together. We both really wanted to go and even though it was a bummer we both decided that we would still go solo on different days. My day was first and I had an awesome time and took plenty of pics to share with her later. During my adventure I took a picture that happened to also capture a booth that had 18+ cosplay stuff of some sorts (was fully enclosed by curtains). They had girls wearing 'revealing' outfits that were handing out flyers and they ended up giving me one. I didn't really think much of it and ended up throwing it away. Later that evening when I was showing the pictures to her we got to the one that had the booth in the background. She started asking me about it and I explained what it was and that there were girls in sexy outfits handing out flyers. This is where I fucked up? To me I was using the word sexy to describe what I saw and what I thought it was. I had no intention or interest in them sexualy. Shoot, I didn't even talk with them... Just said thank you after they handed me the flyer. Yet she started doing down a rabbit hole of me having eyes for other women and that my dick gets hard for other girls. I have never betrayed her trust or given her reason to believe so. I have never cheated on anyone and have no desire to. I'm so confused by the overaction that I'm really struggling to see it from her side. To me the intent was nothing more than the best way to describe outfits. I've talked with her 3 days in a row now about this and it's not really resolving. I feel like we're stuck explaining our sides in a loop now. Can someone try and help me explain from another perspective? Am I crazy for thinking that this is a huge overreaction?
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2023.04.01 05:48 StepwiseUndrape574 GTA V Crowned Best-Selling Game Of The Decade, But Call Of Duty Dominates Top 10 List

The new decade has everyone feeling a little bit reflective, including fans of video games. The NPD Group, Inc. recently released a ton of information about the gaming market over the last ten years. This information included the best selling games of 2019 and the best selling games between 2010 and 2019. Grand Theft Auto V was the best selling game of the decade across all platforms, but the Call of Duty franchise truly won the 2010s.
The NPD Group, Inc. is a New York-based market research company that tracks twenty different industries. Mat Piscatella, a video games market research analyst, recently posted on Twitter the information that the company has gathered both over the last year and over the last decade. Grand Theft Auto V, with an estimated 110 million copies sold. However, the Call of Duty franchise may be the true MVP of the decade. Ten out of the fifteen most popular games in the 2010s were Call of Duty games. This includes the most recent addition to the franchise, Call of Duty: Modern Warfare. The best selling Call of Duty game was Call of Duty: Black Ops. The game was originally released in November 2010 for Microsoft Windows, the Nintendo DS, PlayStation 3, Wii, Xbox 360, and OS X and was later released on mobile. There may even be a reboot in 2020.
Several of the other best selling games of the decade are not a surprise. These games include Red Dead Redemption II, Minecraft, Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim, Mario Kart 8, Battlefield 1, Battlefield 4, Destiny, The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild, Star Wars Battlefront 2015. All of these games made a splash in the 2010s and some even inspired memes and their own cult followings.
The NPD Group, Inc. also released information about consoles. The Playstation 4 was the best selling console of the 2010s, while PS4 Dualshock 4 wireless controller in black was the best selling accessory. However, the Nintendo Switch dominated 2019. It was the best selling console of the year and Switch Pro controller was the best selling accessory.
call of duty modern warfare gameplay Call of Duty: Modern Warfare (2019)
The best-selling games of 2019 were a little more shocking. Call of Duty: Modern Warfare was unsurprisingly the best selling game of 2019, but it was followed by NBA 2K20 and Madden NFL 20. They beat out games such as Borderlands 3, Kingdom Hearts III, and the Outer Worlds which were games that were generally better reviewed and received more hype.Games from series like NBA 2K and Madden NFL appear to have a strong, consistent fan base.
What can the numbers from the 2010s tell us about the video game industry? There have been a variety of interesting games that have come out in the last decade, but the most popular genres appear to be first person shooters and action adventure games. It also seems that many video game fans were drawn to the “open world” concept. Will these preferences continue to reign throughout the 2020s? NPD Group, Inc. reported that that video game spending in general declined in 2019, but it is still a major industry. What do you think HotHardware readers? What video game trends will be the most popular in the 2020s?
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2023.04.01 05:47 Itchy-Trust-477 My friend(20M) is in a toxic relationship with a person(26F). What advice should I give him?

My friend is 20 and his gf (ex?) is 26 years old. They dated for around three months. (kinda short but I believe he loves her and she kinda does too) When my friend’s parents found out, due to their age difference, they told him to end the relationship with her which he didn't listen. At that time his gf was in touch with her ex( 4 years of relationship). His gf then broke up with my friend and go back to her ex. (She played the victim here) My Fri was committed to her that he want to get engaged before he went abroad to study. So he got hurt. Then recently she came back to him and tell him that she can't decide which one she wants to be with. (obviously strongly opposed that) She asks my Fri to give her some time to decide. Thus is currently happening.
My Fri is happy and sad at the same time. I wanted him to forget her and tell him to stop this toxic relationship but my advice might not be effective since all his parents, sisters and everyone already told him what I wanted to say.
I felt he’s opening up to me cuz I don't give him advice but only listen to him. So I wanna choose the words carefully before telling him.
After hearing the story of my fri’s gf, I kinda wanna forgive her a bit. Well she is the man of her family and supporting her old parents and younger sisters. Her two big brothers died due to covid and hence she’s been driving a truck the whole day to survive. So when her ex comes back to her and tells her that he will marry her, support her dream and that he regrets leaving her, may be she got swayed by it.
My friend is still a high school graduate who is planning to study abroad at least for 4 years. He is a smart and competent student tho.
The point is I am now sympathizing with both sides and don't know what to advice to my fri.
Even tho I doubt that my fri’s love for her is a bit childish since they only dated for three months, I am in no position to judge their love. I believe my fri truly loves her and she kinda loves him too(air quotes)
Honestly, I want my fri to let her go and forget her. Cuz even if she chose my fri, LDRs might not work out. Plus she will be 31 after his graduation.
Omg who am I worrying right now!? I should stop sympathizing with everyone.
Anyway, pls tell me the best form of advice I should give him or the things I should avoid when advising him.
Additional notes: My Fri knew that she kinda cheated on him as she is in contact with her ex and planning on marriage. He was upset after their break up but when she call him back, he just forot about it. Now he always call me that he’s in pain but he will still be happy if she choose him.👽
Many Thanks.
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2023.04.01 05:45 WirelezMouse My problem with hardcore.

I am SO DONE with totems.. Especially in hardcore and pvp!! What is the point of the game if you can just CHEAT DEATH!! Now its been around for a long time, but I've gotten back to mc just 2 months back, and these new "lets plays" players have a WHOLE ROW OF TOTEMS!! So they can survive in almost every situation.. If you can't have the fear of losing your world, the game becomes a creative sandbox game -_-
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2023.04.01 05:44 autotldr Indian authorities arrest travel agent accused of duping students facing removal from Canada

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Indian authorities have arrested a travel agent accused of forging the student visa documents of dozens of international students who are currently facing removal orders from Canada due to misrepresentation in their applications.
Raj said his daughter later enrolled in Cambrian at Hanson, a Toronto school connected to Cambrian College, and he paid another $14,000 for her tuition, but he never received a refund from the agent for the Sheridan College tuition.
His daughter is now facing a removal order issued by the Canada Border Services Agency due to the use of a fake letter of acceptance in her initial student visa application.
Mishra has been accused of duping dozens of international students who are now facing removal orders from Canada.
Among the students who were protesting, Ranbir Singh from Gurdaspur, Punjab, told The Fifth Estate that Mishra also cheated him out of $14,000, the amount that should have gone toward his first-year tuition at Algonquin College of Applied Arts and Technology in Ottawa.
"Persons who misrepresent themselves and/or use fraudulent documentation to seek entry to Canada or to remain in Canada are contravening IRPA and risk being removed from Canada," the CBSA said in a statement.
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